A New Begining!

Chessey title, I know.  Just wanted to get the point across. 

I thought in this post I would let everyone know what happened to the job that I loved and thought I would be with forever.  I don't care anymore and it is not intended for a pitty party scenario - just the truth as it pertains to me.

I had a friend - a really good friend.  For years, while my best friend, Teri, lived in Boston, her aunt, Sharon, and I did everything together all the time.  This included numerous hours of drinking (I did not do pills with her, just to make that clear).  Sharon, who is 20 years my senior) did a lot of pills also.  Long story short, it was a detructive friendship.  After Teri came back, Sharon would play us against each other all the time.  Teri said she was jealous...doesn't really matter.  I was with Sharon countless times when she became vendictive and did mean things to people just because it was funny to her.  Didn't really bother me too much...none of my business.

Anyways, after my daughter moved out here I didn't have as much time or energy to play drinky-crow show with her as much, therefore, after explaining over and over again that partying, going to school, helping a pregnant daughter, work, and a household was a lot to handle, the daily drinking stopped making me "boring", "not fun", and pretty much useless to her.  We still kept in touch but didn't see each other other than at parties and stuff like that.

Teri and Sharon got into a huge fight in April of 2012.  Sharon set her sights on making Teris life miserable, and succeeded,  on many occasions, going as far as calling CPS on her and telling them that Teri and her husband were molesting their kids.  It war heinous how far she went and I made the decision to cut her out of oour lives for good.  I refuse to have that sort of negative energy in my life anymore.

Well, Teri is moving to California now, so we had a HUGE summer blow out for her on June 30th.  At that point, Teri told me that Sharon was not to be invited.  I agreed, as everytime Sharon was at a party she acted idiotically, loud, and combative, things ALWAYS got stolen but was blamed on other people, and peole just couldn't relax.  I got numerous text messages through out that day from her, her kids, everyone wanting to know what time to come over.  I ignored them, figuring that I would tect her the next day and explain.  I mean, ant rational person wouldn't wantto be at a going away party for someone they couldn't stand, right???  Party was great and very relaxing...for a change.  The next day I explained my actions and she was mad, but it seemed alright.

Background - Sharon was the only human being in this world that knew I lied on my application at UoP as far as having a felony went because she is the one who told me to do it and how to get around it.  Sharon was also the only human who knew the ethics hotline to call to turn me in.  She is also the only person who knew that it would be termination.

I knew this would happen...I called it when Teri started getting CPS visits.  I told everyone that this was going to happen because I was now in her sights.

On approxiamtely, according to reports that I read, July 5th (the same day the molestation allegations were filed with CPS on Teri), an anonymous tipster (later identified as Sharon) called UoP in ragards to my "slip up" on my original application from 6 YEARS earlier.  The ethics and comliance department started a complete investigation and found that I indeed lied on my application to get the job.  The rest is history...second week in August called in for a inquiry, a week later put on paid administrative leave, a month later let go.  I do have another job and I learned a lot from not working that month.

Since then, all contact with Sharon and the people who she associates with has been cut off.  I feel revived!  I didn't play out any of the wonderful revenge scenarios in my head (YAY ME!).  I took the high road knowing that she has lost a lot of people who wanted to help her and stand by her to get better.  Thinking that she is a sociopath leads us to believe that even if we forgave and tried to help she would end up getting pissed about something and strike again and we aren't willing to sacrifice ourselves that way...we all are just tired of it.  And it's all over a party???

I kinda feel sorry for her.  Her husband and kids can't stand her, she has no real friends, and she is drinking and popping pills to death.  She has been red flagged at every doctors office and clinic in the state, so she is havng a hard time finding her pills and she will not work, so there is no money (and this woman loved shopping as much as I do!).  She is an empty shell - how lonely it must feel!

Todays moral is a simple one that sometimes people forget - getting EVEN is not the answer.  Unless you feel like living out the rest of your days cold and alone, be careful how you exact revenge (or just take the high road).  It may cost you the things that matter most - the people in your lives.